There’s a “school of thought” that part of the process for moving beyond hurtful events in our lives toward health and wholeness is to forgive God for the part He played in them.
What do you think about that?
Obviously, we’ve all experienced trials and tribulations in life. The pain might have even been searing. And it’s possible that you found (find) God’s ways to be inexplicable at best or even disturbing at worst.
In the weeks following our son’s death, several people called me, including a complete stranger, in order to tell me how they had planned to kill themselves, but God stopped them at the last second. I know they meant well with their calls, but each one left me thinking, “Why didn’t God do that for us?”
I also think of the young woman from my former church. While in elementary school, she had been sexually abused by her father, a deacon at the church they attended at the time. I remember her saying, “It bothers me that God was in my bedroom when this was going on.”
Do we now need to forgive God for His role (or non-role) in these tragedies?
Karen Mains addresses this in her book “The Quiet Place.”
“Think about that. Us? Forgive God? As though He had wronged us and needed pardon. To think we possess this kind of power over the righteous, sovereign God is to demean Him and to inflate our importance.
No, God doesn’t need forgiveness from us. He is never guilty of making mistakes. In fact, the thing you consider a cruel injustice on His part may actually turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to you. It can – by the Father’s all-wise grace – be transformed for your good, for His glory, and for the advance of His eternal kingdom.
So I ask you to look again into the heart of God, seeing someone who has a deeper, more loving plan for your life than you could ever figure out on your own, even if you find yourself in the midst of deep pain. He will use this disappointment, this heartbreak, this unspeakable circumstance to teach you, train you, and fulfill His holy, eternal purposes for your life. The alternative – bitterness or anger against God – can do nothing but make things worse and further delay your healing.”
If you’re a person who is struggling with the inexplicable ways of God, it would be my privilege to pray for you. My email address is: firstname.lastname@example.org.