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The Biblical Worldview & Parenting

posted Apr 19, 2016, 9:56 AM by First Baptist


Everyone has a worldview, and our worldview affects everything – even our parenting.

 

Professor Alan Kazdin is the director of the Yale Parenting Center and he advises parents not to correct or punish their children. He says correction & punishment are ineffective. Instead, he calls on parents to “positively reinforce the behavior they do not want to see until the negative behavior eventually goes away.”

 

Huh?

 

Well, it works like this: First, always give your child a choice. For example, instead of “put on your jacket before going outside,” say something like: “It’s chilly outside. Please put on either your Iowa State sweatshirt or your brown jacket.” And then, when you get compliance, Kazdin says, praise the compliance . . . “very effusively.” He refers to this strategy as “reinforcing the non-occurrence of bad behavior.”

 

Kazdin’s approach to parenting reflects his secular worldview. He sees children as innately good and what you’re trying to do as a parent is bring out that innate goodness.

 

According to the biblical worldview, children (like all humans) are innately sinful. This means that our children do not have to learn how to sin, it comes altogether naturally. Thus, as parents, we’re not trying to bring out their innate goodness, but rather instructing them on how to protect themselves (and others) from their innate sinfulness.

 

The Bible says in Ephesians 6:4 that parents are to raise their children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. “Nurture” refers to that which is positive, but “admonition” is defined as that which requires a negative action by the parent in order to correct the child.

 

Professor Kazdin says the problem with parents today is that they don’t understand child psychology. However, his child psychology is based on a secular worldview that is at odds with what is revealed about children in the Bible.

 

Children need both – nurture & admonition.

 

Pastor Dan

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